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7thAdamu User ID: 71164056 United States 05/09/2016 11:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Chip is a good one. I said a prayer for you and ALL of yours experiencing this difficult situation. I know how you must be feeling, I too have been in a similar circumstance, without the seeming lack of compassion from those that were nearby however. People deal with grief in strange ways sometimes, maybe this is one of those cases? Know there are people out there concerned for you althouth it might not seem like that right now where you are. Good luck OP, God bless. What exactly are they worshipping here? :deadsheep: |
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Samara User ID: 53936955 Canada 05/09/2016 11:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Gosh, I'm really sorry you are having such a tough time and around such awful people. It is rough losing a pregnancy, and the hormones afterward really mess with you, too. The only thing I can console you with, is that often, a child is miscarried because it is not the right time for it to come, or because of a medical issue that would make life impossible for it. Often, that soul that has chosen its mother will show up again down the line. Don't give up, and just ignore the jeering section and be there for your girl. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5758745 ^^^^THIS ^^^^^^^ and don't make it about her family OP. This is your girlfriend & your little baby. It's about the 3 of you. Stay close to her & comfort her because she needs it. Be assertive & don't let them push you out of the way. Some families are very domineering & take over when it's inappropriate. They are clearly oblivious about your grief, so stay close to your gf & you can both grieve together. Sending you 3 Love & strength. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72184509 United States 05/09/2016 11:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So I am at the hospital. My pregnant gf has had complications. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71353195 Her mom is here with an aunt & her daughter. All of them are laughing joking talking like there is nothing wrong. And I am just sitting here thinking that our baby will die. I am not being dramatic; we are here waiting for her to miscarry Papa God please heal and be with the gf and the baby and the AC OP. Give OP strength and fill OP with Your Holy Spirit. Give OP knowledge and wisdom with regards to this situation. Also give compassion to the gf's family. Fill them with love and joy, and compassion and respect. Heal all of their spirits and souls. Heal their hearts and minds. Heal even their bodies and emotions. Melt away their unbelief in Your Son, Jesus. In Christ Jesus' Name we pray, even now, be in that hospital room. Amen. |
JazzyG Forum Administrator User ID: 3448973 United States 05/10/2016 12:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | :jgprayers: To know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders. A rock in bad hands killed Abel. A rock in good hands killed Goliath. It isn't about the rock. A true warrior fights not because he hates the one in front of him, but because he loves those behind him. INTP-A |
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Ralph--a house dog User ID: 72180721 United States 05/10/2016 12:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So sorry, OP. Sending love and comfort to you & all concerned. Be strong for your girlfriend. "Do Not Go Gentle into that Good Night.....Rage, rage against the dying of the light"-----Dylan Thomas HIS NAME IS SETH RICH [link to biblicalselfdefense.com] [link to forum.1111ers.blog] Always remember that "for the greater good" will not include YOU. "Who decides?" ---Robert A. Heinlein -'Whoever would overthrow the liberty of a nation must begin by subduing the freeness of speech.'—Benjamin Franklin [link to www.westcoasttruth.com] The only thing worth paying full retail for is pantyhose. You cannot do all of the good the world needs, but the world needs all of the good you can do. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71353195 United States 05/10/2016 12:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Gosh, I'm really sorry you are having such a tough time and around such awful people. It is rough losing a pregnancy, and the hormones afterward really mess with you, too. The only thing I can console you with, is that often, a child is miscarried because it is not the right time for it to come, or because of a medical issue that would make life impossible for it. Often, that soul that has chosen its mother will show up again down the line. Don't give up, and just ignore the jeering section and be there for your girl. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5758745 ^^^^THIS ^^^^^^^ and don't make it about her family OP. This is your girlfriend & your little baby. It's about the 3 of you. Stay close to her & comfort her because she needs it. Be assertive & don't let them push you out of the way. Some families are very domineering & take over when it's inappropriate. They are clearly oblivious about your grief, so stay close to your gf & you can both grieve together. Sending you 3 Love & strength. Gosh, I'm really sorry you are having such a tough time and around such awful people. It is rough losing a pregnancy, and the hormones afterward really mess with you, too. The only thing I can console you with, is that often, a child is miscarried because it is not the right time for it to come, or because of a medical issue that would make life impossible for it. Often, that soul that has chosen its mother will show up again down the line. Don't give up, and just ignore the jeering section and be there for your girl. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5758745 ^^^^THIS ^^^^^^^ and don't make it about her family OP. This is your girlfriend & your little baby. It's about the 3 of you. Stay close to her & comfort her because she needs it. Be assertive & don't let them push you out of the way. Some families are very domineering & take over when it's inappropriate. They are clearly oblivious about your grief, so stay close to your gf & you can both grieve together. Sending you 3 Love & strength. Thank you very much |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 72184554 United Arab Emirates 05/10/2016 12:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP wrote: The dr. Already said that there was no way the baby will live. They told my mom the same thing about me...here I am over 50 years old! My mom told the doctors "YES HE WILL"!!! I will say a prayer for your baby & you and your girl! DON'T go off on her family (no matter how callous they are)...it will only cause you more difficulties! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 64884134 United States 05/10/2016 12:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So I am at the hospital. My pregnant gf has had complications. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71353195 Her mom is here with an aunt & her daughter. All of them are laughing joking talking like there is nothing wrong. And I am just sitting here thinking that our baby will die. I am not being dramatic; we are here waiting for her to miscarry From a woman's perspective, 15 weeks is very early and anything can happen in a pregnancy. Lots of times, the Lord takes the babies before they are born to save them from suffering more after birth. Just the way it is. Hang in there, as long is she is ok that is half the battle. :hug: |
Dazey User ID: 72075242 United States 05/10/2016 12:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Prayers to you OP As a previous poster stated, everyone has a different reaction to grief, but that doesn't make one right or wrong. Also, from a female perspective, especially one who has had a miscarriage. Some women aren't able to put all of their 'hope' into a pregnancy until after the first trimester. They know things can go wrong, etc. While 15 weeks is in to the second trimester, it is sometimes easier to remain a bit detached rather than suffering heartbreak... I wouldn't doubt if it's some type of defense mechanism kicking in. Wishing you peace and praises to you for being a considerate guy. Dazey |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71927652 United States 05/10/2016 12:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just can't believe people can be so fucked up. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71353195 So anyway just wanted to vent. All of them have their children & a future. my girl cried for a few minutes. Other than that they are just acting like its another day. It's not really "people" it's the demons inside them. Don't believe in that? You could say they "brainwashed" themselves not to care about significant things and only care about material (insignificant) things. But the biblical knowledge is actually the correct reason; "devil inside" because those with the Holy Spirit can purge them from an individual. Of course, your family (pride of the flesh) is not your spiritual family (family of GOD in the spirit) but for the purposes of this thread I won't go there beyond what I just said. |
BunBun User ID: 70719364 United States 05/10/2016 12:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm sorry for the child and best wishes for your girlfriend's recovery, but you can still save yourself. I don't know your plans but bad in-laws can ruin a marriage so pay attention to your gut reaction to her family's behavior. You really do marry the family. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51737095 Prayers for you, OP. This advice is the best. You are really getting to see inside this family. I hope that you do what is right for you and all future children. Please don't let anyone tell you that your gut instinct is wrong. It is always right. Go with it, OP. The baby will be in God's hands and it will still exist. They don't blink out of existence. You are still a father. That child will be with Heavenly Father and Lord Jesus Christ and Lord Holy Spirit. He raises them in Heaven, OP. They get the best rearing that anyone could ask for. They are mentally and emotionally well in Father's House and if you believe in Lord Jesus Christ, you will see your baby someday. He or she will be a grown woman or man probably, so listen to this BunBun. Name the baby-even if you don't tell the girlfriend. Write letters to your child. Ask Lord Jesus to talk to your child for you. God is the best Father for you too, OP. You don't have to say goodbye. The baby's physical body will die, but it will be very much alive in the Spirit world. We are eternal, OP, from the moment of conception. Love your child, OP. Don't let anyone tell you that you should let go. You are that child's father now and forever. Father showed me a daughter that I had lost in 1992. I was taking the birth control pill and had a breakthrough conception. She's 24 now and in Heaven. He showed me a vision of her. I thought it was me because she looks just like I looked when I was a young woman. She stands up straight and tall, OP, in a way that I never did. She is confident. That's the kind of raising that Father gives to a child. He's the best and you can totally trust Him in every respect. He will not let you down, OP. Love from the BunBun Christard and Lover of God |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 45774918 United States 05/10/2016 12:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So I am at the hospital. My pregnant gf has had complications. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71353195 Her mom is here with an aunt & her daughter. All of them are laughing joking talking like there is nothing wrong. And I am just sitting here thinking that our baby will die. I am not being dramatic; we are here waiting for her to miscarry what month is she in? . |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 69934123 United States 05/10/2016 12:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Most hospitals have a Chaplin. Go ask a nurse to direct you to that department, or ask the nurse to page one for you. Your girl friend would benefit from the Chaplin's comforting words also. Also, there might be a quiet chapel for you to wait, or another room removed from those who don't care and have no respect. The nurse will help you. Explain your feelings. They've heard it all before. Just ask. PRAYERS FOR THE THREE OF YOU. GOD'S BLESSINGS |
Dace User ID: 70360309 United States 05/10/2016 12:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Most hospitals have a Chaplin. Go ask a nurse to direct you to that department, or ask the nurse to page one for you. Your girl friend would benefit from the Chaplin's comforting words also. Also, there might be a quiet chapel for you to wait, or another room removed from those who don't care and have no respect. The nurse will help you. Explain your feelings. They've heard it all before. Just ask. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69934123 PRAYERS FOR THE THREE OF YOU. GOD'S BLESSINGS You want her to be as calm as possible and rest....so don't take the above advice. hospital rooms + priests = getting ready for a death. don't stress her the fuck out by putting those thoughts in her head. If you need (god forbid) or want one later that's great, but I'd keep with the happy thoughts until she's stable. |