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PokerStar User ID: 62740825 United States 05/10/2016 02:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | With all due respect ma'am, I don't think it is the military's fault that your husband is cheating on you. Men in all kinds of professions have affairs with co-workers. In addition, there are many loyal spouse's in the military both male and female. You apparently did not marry one though. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 70748369 United States 05/10/2016 02:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | A lover's quarrel gone wrong and it keeps happening. Sad. Exhibit A. [link to www.dailymail.co.uk] Exhibit B. [link to www.dailymail.co.uk] When is the military going to defend the wives and the families? CHEATING IS NOT OKAY. IT has deadly consequences. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 70748369 United States 05/10/2016 02:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | With all due respect ma'am, I don't think it is the military's fault that your husband is cheating on you. Quoting: PokerStar Men in all kinds of professions have affairs with co-workers. In addition, there are many loyal spouse's in the military both male and female. You apparently did not marry one though. The point is, one of the military "CORE VALUES" is INTEGRITY. How is a commander going to tell the spouse that it's ok for his soldier's to cheat and condone that behavior, and think it doesn't contradict the essence of what they stand for. Like I said, all military wives need to get theirs, and whatever benefits come from it. Military men suck ass. Literally. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71538635 United States 05/10/2016 02:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | With all due respect ma'am, I don't think it is the military's fault that your husband is cheating on you. Quoting: PokerStar Men in all kinds of professions have affairs with co-workers. In addition, there are many loyal spouse's in the military both male and female. You apparently did not marry one though. Well said. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 70684721 United States 05/10/2016 02:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm a female in the military and I would never marry a soldier. I've been deployed and I know how they are. But let any man be away from his wife for a year. He will probably cheat too. Oh and there were married women cheating on their husbands when I was deployed. People cheat. And military spouses are probably WORSE than soldiers. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71507738 United States 05/10/2016 02:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, seems to me as if you're placing blame with everyone but your husband. It's not the military's fault, not the chick's fault, not his commander's or unit's fault......the fault lies 100% with your husband's apparent inability to keep his dick in his pants. If you were smart, you'd leave and find an honest guy. But based on your post, you strike me as the type who will stick around indefinitely, while your man treats you like shit, then complain about it. Leopards don't change their spots. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44600032 United States 05/10/2016 03:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, seems to me as if you're placing blame with everyone but your husband. Quoting: filth It's not the military's fault, not the chick's fault, not his commander's or unit's fault......the fault lies 100% with your husband's apparent inability to keep his dick in his pants. If you were smart, you'd leave and find an honest guy. But based on your post, you strike me as the type who will stick around indefinitely, while your man treats you like shit, then complain about it. Leopards don't change their spots. You do realize that some military wives cannot just up and leave at the drop of a dime. Many are stationed with their husband's overseas, many far away from friends and family they know to follow a man chase after his own career and never cater to the woman's needs. Learn to see the other side of the picture. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71169235 United States 05/10/2016 04:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | btw Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71141117 any co who says they do not care is a failure and a fool it is an opsec issue can lead to security compromise never underestimate this kind of thing those who do place the entire mission at risk which makes me a tad incredulous of this op but it is possible tis true Hey lighten up. We have had Prezs getting head at 1600 Pensylvania avenue from women other than their wives forever. Went public with the whore Clintoon and his hag and look she's up for the top job. China sole all from Clintoon and nobody gave a shit so all this talk of opsec is nonsense. There is no opsec these days |
Face Palmer User ID: 72180097 Germany 05/10/2016 04:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I wonder why you were thinking the military would give a flying fuck? You think the republican party gives one? Or your local bank? "The world will soon wake up to the reality that everyone is broke and can collect nothing from the bankrupt, who are owed unlimited amounts by the insolvent, who are attempting to make late payments on a bank holiday in the wrong country, with an unacceptable currency, against defaulted collateral, of which nobody is sure who holds title." Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. The woman who is not pursued sets up the doctrine that pursuit is offensive to her sex, and wants to make it a felony. No genuinely attractive woman has any such desire. - H.L. Mencken, In Defense Of Women |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 70836289 United States 05/10/2016 04:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At least your hubby cheated on you with a woman. I'm about to cheat on my wife with another married man. What the heck? Wifey's not giving me any sex anymore and I don't need another woman in my life. At least the other married guy can keep his trap shut and won't blab to his BFF like women would do. |
Face Palmer User ID: 72180097 Germany 05/10/2016 05:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | At least your hubby cheated on you with a woman. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70836289 I'm about to cheat on my wife with another married man. What the heck? Wifey's not giving me any sex anymore and I don't need another woman in my life. At least the other married guy can keep his trap shut and won't blab to his BFF like women would do. "The world will soon wake up to the reality that everyone is broke and can collect nothing from the bankrupt, who are owed unlimited amounts by the insolvent, who are attempting to make late payments on a bank holiday in the wrong country, with an unacceptable currency, against defaulted collateral, of which nobody is sure who holds title." Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. The woman who is not pursued sets up the doctrine that pursuit is offensive to her sex, and wants to make it a felony. No genuinely attractive woman has any such desire. - H.L. Mencken, In Defense Of Women |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71098525 Philippines 05/10/2016 05:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | btw Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71141117 any co who says they do not care is a failure and a fool it is an opsec issue can lead to security compromise never underestimate this kind of thing those who do place the entire mission at risk which makes me a tad incredulous of this op but it is possible tis true Hey lighten up. We have had Prezs getting head at 1600 Pensylvania avenue from women other than their wives forever. Went public with the whore Clintoon and his hag and look she's up for the top job. China sole all from Clintoon and nobody gave a shit so all this talk of opsec is nonsense. There is no opsec these days if there was any justice they all would swing poor choice of word hang is better |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 70003292 United States 05/10/2016 05:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | With all due respect ma'am, I don't think it is the military's fault that your husband is cheating on you. Quoting: PokerStar Men in all kinds of professions have affairs with co-workers. In addition, there are many loyal spouse's in the military both male and female. You apparently did not marry one though. The point is, one of the military "CORE VALUES" is INTEGRITY. How is a commander going to tell the spouse that it's ok for his soldier's to cheat and condone that behavior, and think it doesn't contradict the essence of what they stand for. Like I said, all military wives need to get theirs, and whatever benefits come from it. Military men suck ass. Literally. And, who is the Commander In Chief of the military? A fish stinks from the head. Back when dinosaurs roamed the earth, and I was in, a man would've had his ass handed to him for this sort of thing by his superior officers, if his senior enlisted didn't demolish him first. |
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JaxP User ID: 32858882 United States 05/10/2016 05:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Today I found out that my husband of x amount of years is cheating on my with one of his coworkers (another soldier, female). There are countless texts messages and phone call records between them both, that confirm this affair. In an effort to get to the bottom of this, I confront the (female) soldier (let's call her 007) and she flat out denies knowing my husband but phone records suggest otherwise. The bitch is a liar; she is one "troop" I will NOT support. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70748369 The problem here is that, there is a military stance against fraternization and/or having extra maritial affairs. However the military (as i recently discovered) proudly supports outside maritial cheating and the soldier's "TOP BRASS" will NOT get involved especially if/when it's concerning one of their golden soldiers. The unit name of my husband doesn't matter, but for they record, the are ALL the epitome of what a standing asshole looks like. THEY DON'T CARE about soldiers and families. In fact, my husband's commander told me verbatim that "WE DON'T CARE IF OUR SOLDIERS LIE TO THEIR SPOUSE, THEY HAVE TO MISSION to complete." So for all you wives who sport those "Proud ARMY/NAVY/AIR FORCE/MARINE Wife" ribbon stickers on your cars, you are fools. The military does not recieprocate those sentiments back and that is a problem with the general moral of our suck ass military. This immoral mentality breeds like a cancer in the military and there is no real concern for the family who become victimized by the actions of soldiers having affairs with each other. I am strongly encouraging ALL of you women who sit by day in and day out and wait for your "hero", to get a damn clue. THE MILITARY DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU. It never has, it never will. I suggest you to women who are in a relationship with military personnel, TO only stay with your military husband for the benefits only and not for love. Love doesn't mean shit these days. Because when he cheats on you, nobody will give a shit about it you or what you go through, especially his command. Family first? First of all, stero-typing all military units by your husband's unit is just wrong. Yes, the Army is the worst when it comes to caring about the families. They do try to "protect" their own, but they are not all like that. The other services are better. You sound a bit angry, so you should think about the consequences before you proceed. Revenge is never productive. However, there is a way to force the unit to respond. First, you must understand if they respond, your husband could get separated or demoted. Both of these could affect your marital support, or child support and medical. This is the main reason most spouses don't report to the units. Any self respecting woman wouldn't care about that though. So, here is what you do. There are a few ways to go about this. You could go to the family readiness officer (FRO), tell them your whole story, and ask them to advise you on filing a report with the unit. The FRO will be obligated to help you, but keep in mind they all gossip. This will most likely spread your business all over the base. You could also go to the Inspector General and tell them that you went to the unit and they blew you off. The units are supposed to take all reports and investigate them. So you have the unit investigated for a cover-up. This option opens a huge can of worms, and your husband is more likely to be separated from the military rather than demoted. Little tip...the military is actually in a bit of hot water right now for units not investigating sexual assault claims, so using words like "cover-up" will cause them to jump a little. Or, you could just pack your stuff and leave. Divorces in the military favor the spouse. If you are going to do this, go to the base legal aid office and talk to them. Don't use them as your attorney they suck. But, if you have a meeting with them, then by law they can NOT represent your husband in the divorce. That would be a conflict of interest. As for advising people to not support the military because your spouse is a cheater, yea get bent. I know you are angry, but to take your anger out on an entire segment of society is wrong. I have been a military spouse for 22 years, and all three of my children serve in the military. It is not an easy life and it takes a strong person to live this life. Clearly you are not cut out for it, so may I advise you to take my last option and just get out. Leave, and don't look back. |
JaxP User ID: 32858882 United States 05/10/2016 05:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, seems to me as if you're placing blame with everyone but your husband. Quoting: filth It's not the military's fault, not the chick's fault, not his commander's or unit's fault......the fault lies 100% with your husband's apparent inability to keep his dick in his pants. If you were smart, you'd leave and find an honest guy. But based on your post, you strike me as the type who will stick around indefinitely, while your man treats you like shit, then complain about it. Leopards don't change their spots. You do realize that some military wives cannot just up and leave at the drop of a dime. Many are stationed with their husband's overseas, many far away from friends and family they know to follow a man chase after his own career and never cater to the woman's needs. Learn to see the other side of the picture. Yes they can. Especially if they are station overseas. Overseas, they will send a spouse home for numerous reasons, the kids also. The number one reason is removal of command sponsorship. See, each command has to sponsor all family members to be in the country. If there is a divorce, command sponsorship is automatically removed, then the spouse is shipped home and they pay for it. |